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These tips will help you
navigate the online personals terrain
safely, so that with just a few clicks
of your mouse and some common sense
tips, you’ll find exactly what you are
looking for:
Online Dating Tip #1 – Stay Positive and
Pace Yourself!
When e-mailing and IM-ing
(Instant Messaging) with others, be
positive, upbeat and honest. Just like
when you’re meeting people for the first
time in "real life," it’s never a good
idea to bombard someone with the
unadulterated story of your life
complete with every road bump and
detour. Keep the honesty, but don’t
overwhelm your online friend with too
much information too soon. Pace
yourself!
Online Dating Tip #2 – Photos are
Powerful!
Pictures say a thousand
words. Include one! Profiles that
include photos get many more responses
than text-only ones!
Online Dating Tip #3 – Demonstrate Why
You’re Unique
Round out your profile
with interesting information that
highlights your unique personality,
background and interests. Everyone
enjoys walks on the beach and snuggling
up by the fireplace…. so go beyond the
ordinary and offer up detail on authors
you’re inspired by, places you’ve
visited or dreamed about seeing, etc. Go
beyond the ordinary and you’ll reap the
rewards!
Online Dating Tip #4 – Meet People at
Your Own Pace
Don’t feel pressured to
meet face to face before you’re ready.
Men usually do better when they let
women control the pace of the online
relationship, since a woman may need a
little more time to feel safe. Men would
do well to let women know they are
interested in meeting face-to-face, but
then to step back and let the woman say
when.
Online Dating Tip #5 – Close the Deal!
After you meet someone
that you like, cinch a second meeting
after the date, by looking directly into
his or her eyes and saying, "I had a
really great time with you, it was a lot
of fun."
Online Dating Tip #6 – Safety First!
Be sure to assume an
anonymous handle, i.e., member ID or
user name, so that your privacy is
assured. Never sign up with an online
personals company that doesn’t provide
anonymous email services!
Other safety tips
include:
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Use an
e-mail address or cell phone number
as an initial means of contact. Do
not give out your home phone number.
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If
you're planning on meeting someone,
tell at least two people where
you're going, the person's name,
their general Description, and your
expected time home.
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Always
meet someone in a neutral location.
Never have them come to your home or
place of work to pick you up.
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Always
meet someone in a public place, such
as a restaurant, or a movie theatre.
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Always
be aware of the personal information
you're revealing to a date.
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Use
common sense. If you get a bad
"vibe" maybe it's time to end the
date.
Bottom Line: Forget about
acting cool, and think about acting
real. The dates (and maybe even true
love) will follow.
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